by It might take you a while to recognize the signs, but here we’ll help you understand if your partner is manipulative. A manipulative person is definitely sneaky. The good thing, however, is that a lot of what he does rings true to his intentions.
What are the red flags that your partner is manipulative?
1) He lights gas
What is this; Gaslighting is a trick that will make you question your feelings and perceptions. He constantly questions and rejects you and makes you feel like he’s imagining things.
For example, he says something offensive and if you point it out to him, he insists that you misunderstood or misheard. So you start wondering if it’s your fault.
No, you are not imagining anything. Listen to your instinct – it’s there to protect you from people who try to distort reality.
2) He lies to control you
It’s all about control. He may lie about his feelings or his past, or even make up entire situations, in order to control you. For example, she may lie about a missed career opportunity to make you feel guilty for not supporting her.
Again, trust your instincts. If you sense something is wrong, it probably is.
3) He plays the victim
Another thing manipulative people do is manipulate sympathy. And they do it by playing the victim, making you feel guilty so that you finally give in to their demands. Be firm in your limits. Be compassionate and understanding, but learn to recognize emotional manipulation.
4) Silence
Manipulative people will try any trick to get what they want, including silence. If you managed to say no to previous attempts at manipulation, they will punish you – without words.
It’s a classic tactic, and this passive-aggressive behavior can be very frustrating, because it’s just another way to get you to give in to their demands. He sends the message: either you do what I want or I won’t talk to you at all.
We are talking about a cold war. What to do: Think that adults communicate. This is how they resolve their differences. If they don’t, they leave.
5) He is emotionally blackmailing
How; Threatens to reveal your secrets or leave you, compares you to others and others, constantly brings up past mistakes, uses your children or pets as pawns, talks about too negative consequences. The goal is to make you feel fear. The solution is simply to never give in to any of these tactics. Remember: the right person should make you feel safe, not scared!
6) He bombards you
When you overflow with love, everything has an exaggeration. But even if the exaggeration is excessive, it’s a manipulator’s way of making you more receptive to their manipulation. He will fill you with affection to take control. He will give you endless compliments and gifts, he will always appear in front of you where you least expect it, etc. In reality, it is a form of psychological and emotional abuse. Unfortunately, it’s very hard to spot it until it’s too late…and hard to escape.
What to do: Set your boundaries and see if he sticks to them.
7) It isolates you from your friends and family
“You and me against the world” – this is something you might hear from a manipulative person.
And while he may make the whole situation seem romantic at first, you should know that this is just another way for him to control you.
Because manipulative people want to control your support system, they may try to isolate you from friends and family. They want to be your only source of support. They want you to be completely dependent on them.
Remember: a healthy relationship should never require you to cut ties with the people you care about.
8) It makes you feel inferior
Finally, manipulative people often make you feel inferior, either through unclear criticism or open criticism.
Its purpose is to erode your self-esteem, make you feel inadequate and insecure, and thus make you more vulnerable to its control.
Be careful and in tune with yourself, your needs and your desires. This way you will recognize when someone is trying to make you feel inferior.
Manipulation is such a complex topic and encompasses a wide range of behaviors. The main thing to keep in mind is that it’s all about control. That’s why it’s important to trust your instincts and maintain healthy boundaries.
And don’t be afraid to walk away if the behavior persists. There is definitely someone who will treat you with the love and respect you deserve.
Also Read: 11 Reasons Why Men Pull Away When Their Emotions Are High
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